Honoring Your Parent (100th Posting To Honor Bapak & Ibu)

I’ve been on Blogger since January 2007, so this is my second years being here. I found wonderful times here, so many laugh , so many stories, so many touching moments, so many inspirational words, so many lessons, so many hopes, so many creativities, and much more. For the first year I only watched and read other blogs. I couldn’t write even a single posting. I never write an article before, may be because I’m a rigid construction engineer who couldn’t play words to become interesting sentence….but I learn how to write word by word…until now…. I’m publishing my 100th posting (still, no matter how bad the writes are). I’d like to dedicate it to my father and mother.

Pak, Bu….thank you for giving me such a big love. It started when I was born, so many pain you had, so much blood came out, so many tears you had, so many pray, so much tension, so much worry, so much struggle, so much breath, and much more. Again you gave big loves to me when I was a kid. You care for me with so much patience. You always worked hard to feed me. There are times when you did some extra jobs to have some more money for me. I remembered when ibu made some donuts every early morning and sold it to village’s small store. I also remembered when Bapak did overtime works everyday to get extra money. When the school time came for me, you took me to the school with every penny you had. I studied hard to pay you back. Even when I got high mark on the subject in school & college, I still felt that I could not pay you back, even you don’t want it too.

I write this & I must write this all the time, at least in my mind to remind me that I have so much debt to pay, to give the best for my parent. I‘ve been inspired when I visited ZieZie’s Home whose remind me to memorize or childhood & how parent care for me. I wrote a comment on her posting:

“terima kasih sudah mengingatkan kami utk selalu mengingat jasa orang tua kita dan juga tentunya membalas budi adalah keharusan dan kewajiban yang harus kita laksanakan sebagai anak mereka. Ingin rasanya membahagiakan orang tua kita, namun terkadang realitas hidup kadang menghalangi niat kita itu. Namun juga hal itu tidak pernah meyurutkan niat sy utk memberikan yang terbaik bagi mereka. Diiringi doa stiap saat bagi kesehatan dan ketentraman bathin mereka, sy harus berjuang utk membalas budi.
Pernah seorang sepupu yang ditinggal mati oleh kedua orang tuanya memeluk sy dengan erat dan membisikkan kata2: "Jagalah dan rawatlah orang tuamu selagi ada kesempatan; kami sudah tidak punya kesempatan itu"
Mudah2an Tuhan memberikan jalan-Nya agar kita mampu membahagiakan orang tua kita.
Terima kasih Mbak Zie”

…………again I thank you, Mbak Zie.

Now Bapak is 71 years old & Ibu is 61 years old. They don’t have good physic, so many times they had to hospitalized because of their sickness. Bapak has Uric Acid Sickness since 20 years ago, and now his hearth and his kidney are also has weaken because of that Uric Acid. Ibu has diabetic sickness for more than 15 years. Last year she had light stroke because of her diabetic. In October 2008, they both hospitalized in the same time, and we had to put both of them in the same room, so the family can accompany them at the same time.

I wonder & keep asking God, “Why do You give them sickness?”

Then I realized that it was their journey, it was their temptation, and also it was a chance for their kids, for me, to care for them. Surely I can not give them money, goods, jewelry or pleasures. But at least I have love and attention to give. I am trying to share the love with visiting them once in a week, bring some foods their like, cheer them up with Audrey’s smile, and also show them that we’re okay – nothing to worry about us, let them just concentrate on their health. Every night we do pray for them, may God bless their health and hearth, so they can enjoy their life peacefully. Sometimes I ask God to show me how to care and how to love my parent.

I search some site, looking for some tips how to honor parent, and I found some simple things to do, like making a dinner for them & be polite to them , also How to respect your parent

I remember when I was a kid, my parent took me to Sunday School and in that class I was introduced to The Ten Commandments where the commandment #4 is honoring your father and your mother. So help me God to do your commandment.

May be some of you has forgotten what they are:

1st I am the LORD thy God. Thou shalt have no strange gods before Me.

2nd Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain.

3rd Remember to keep holy the Sabbath day

4th Honour thy father and thy mother.

5th Thou shalt not kill.

6th Thou shalt not commit adultery.

7th Thou shalt not steal.

8th Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.

9th Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife.

10th Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's goods.

Let’s take care our parent while there is a remaining time for us to do that. Believe me there are so much blessing from God when we do that.