Karepe Gusti

“Kalau sedang susah jangan ditambahi susah – if you have difficulties in life, just don’t make them like they are  worse than it should be” , this quote I got on last Saturday, few hours after my cousin funeral who died after hearth attack the night before. After the funeral, Mas Y, another cousin of mine met my Old Man to have his advice and his bless for his life. With his gloomy and depressed face he came to my Old Man and he told so many difficulties he had in  his life after his wife past away 7 years ago.

He has 5 daughters and eleven grand kids. The eldest daughter with her 3 kids are now live in her own house, while the other 4 daughter with 8 kids are still in the same house with Mas Y. They live in 120 meter square house with 5 bed rooms. So we can imagine now how crowded their house is. Mas Y retired from his job 5 years ago, and he didn’t get any pension allowance. His sons in law don’t have sufficient income from their job, that’s why they still stayed in the same house. They can not afford to have their own house.

The difficulties are started from the economical condition, and of course from social interaction in between the big family like that. The house doesn’t have a peaceful life. Argues and fights are always there. So many problems raised over and over again. It’s really a stressful life, and it’s shown in my cousin’s face. Now he wants to sell the house and split the income into 6, and he just want one sixth of the expecting price for his own living. He has felt enough to go on current situation.

My Old Man  did not give an instant solution for his nephew. He began with telling the story of his life journey which full of struggles, sweats, pains, sicknesses and even tears. He put a large of time to tell about his 20 years illness. There were times when My Old Man felt that he rather be dead than suffering the pains of the illness. But he was told by his own consciousness that he could hear his words to say to dye; it means he wants what his want; not what The God’s wants. “Nek Gusti Allah arep mundut aku mestine saiki aku wis ora iso ngomong karo kowe, ning Gusti isih maringi aku urip, aku mesti nrimo opo sing dikarepke Gusti – If God wanted to take my life at that time, I can not talk with you right now, but God is still giving me a life, then I must accept what His wants ”.

Then finally at the end of that conversation, My Old Man said that every body has his own journey, we just have to deal with it. If we have difficulties in life, just don’t make them like they are worse than it should be. Sometimes we are the one who make the problems become more difficult. It’s all about our perception. If we just can accept them as it is and not to over react, may be  we can face it and find the solution properly.

Those last sentence was just like having a power in it. The power that touch every body who listen to it. Yes, I was there at that conversation just beside my cousin. I felt like My Old Man wants to say that words to me too. He repeated those words two times to  make sure that I can hear it too, and I surely did. Somehow, My Old Man has a sensitive feeling, he knew that I have my own difficulties and he wanted that conversation moment with my cousin as a time for touching me too. I have to admitted that most of the time I over reacted in facing my difficulties; and because of that my difficulties getting bigger and bigger, and become never ending problems. I’m the one who make my own difficulties.

My Old Man then told my cousins to ask God for what he needs, he should ask God also for having His bless in facing all of difficulties he had. My Old Man also promised him that he will also ask God the same request for my cousin. Also My Old Man ask him to face his difficulties in advance, and not necessary to make it bigger nor avoiding it.

I believe My Old Man will ask God for the same thing for me, because I need that too. I believe My Old Man’s prays will always be with me. …………………………………………………………………………….…………………………………………………Terima kasih Bapak sudah memberkati anakmu ini.